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keep conversation going
Q: How can I keep conversation going?
A: Well, for example, I asked Annie what’s news in her recently life the other day?
She said last Saturday, all her family had an outing to Tahshei.
The questions could be asked more are
1.When did you go?
2.Do you usually go out together on holiday?
3.Did you have a good time?
4.Whose idea was it? Why did you choose Tanshei?
5.What did you do at Taishei? (biking ---)
6.Did you buy something special to eat?
7.Did you see anything special there? Sunset? Just too many people, no fun at all?
8.Did you see street performance there? What kind?
9.Did you ever see any special performance in other places?
10.Where do you usually go for an outing?
11.What do you usually do on holidays for family activity?
12.If your family decide to go out together, but your good friend happens to invite you to go out, what would you decide? With your family or your friend?
13.What would you like to do the most at Taishei?
14.Is there nice restaurant you have visited before and you think it is great?
15.I know many people like to go there. Why do you think so? Do you have the same feeling? Why?
A: Well, for example, I asked Annie what’s news in her recently life the other day?
She said last Saturday, all her family had an outing to Tahshei.
The questions could be asked more are
1.When did you go?
2.Do you usually go out together on holiday?
3.Did you have a good time?
4.Whose idea was it? Why did you choose Tanshei?
5.What did you do at Taishei? (biking ---)
6.Did you buy something special to eat?
7.Did you see anything special there? Sunset? Just too many people, no fun at all?
8.Did you see street performance there? What kind?
9.Did you ever see any special performance in other places?
10.Where do you usually go for an outing?
11.What do you usually do on holidays for family activity?
12.If your family decide to go out together, but your good friend happens to invite you to go out, what would you decide? With your family or your friend?
13.What would you like to do the most at Taishei?
14.Is there nice restaurant you have visited before and you think it is great?
15.I know many people like to go there. Why do you think so? Do you have the same feeling? Why?
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2012/04/08
mid-life crisis
The questions are
1.How can you do self-exam psychologically to deal with your mid-life?
2.What are the problems in mid-life crisis, like what --?
3.What are the positive and negative influences from our parents? How to deal with them?
4.What is the limitation of the relationship?
5.Why do people tend to have affairs during the mid-life?
6.How go through mid-life?
7.How to deal with ‘relationship crisis’?
8.What is the inner guidance or inner voice?
9.What is the difference between narcissism and authentic self?
10.What should we be doing during mid-life crisis?
1.How can you do self-exam psychologically to deal with your mid-life?
2.What are the problems in mid-life crisis, like what --?
3.What are the positive and negative influences from our parents? How to deal with them?
4.What is the limitation of the relationship?
5.Why do people tend to have affairs during the mid-life?
6.How go through mid-life?
7.How to deal with ‘relationship crisis’?
8.What is the inner guidance or inner voice?
9.What is the difference between narcissism and authentic self?
10.What should we be doing during mid-life crisis?
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2012/04/01
Why worry?
This is the story.
An ancient monk, planting an olive tree, asked God to send rain to his little tree. God is very merciful, immediately sent gentle shower. Then he prayed to God ‘Lord, my little tree nee Sun, please give it to my tree. So the same, God let sun shine upon the little tree. The monk again prayed ‘now frost, my Lord, to brace its tissue.
And Look! The little tree really stood sparklingly with frost.
But at evening, it died.
Feeling so sad, the monk visited another brother monk and told his strange experience.
An ancient monk, planting an olive tree, asked God to send rain to his little tree. God is very merciful, immediately sent gentle shower. Then he prayed to God ‘Lord, my little tree nee Sun, please give it to my tree. So the same, God let sun shine upon the little tree. The monk again prayed ‘now frost, my Lord, to brace its tissue.
And Look! The little tree really stood sparklingly with frost.
But at evening, it died.
Feeling so sad, the monk visited another brother monk and told his strange experience.
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2012/03/31
conversation starter
Last night, Annie came to my class.
First of all, whenever she comes to my class, she usually gets online to check her Facebook to find if any of her friends on it. If there is any, she would start chatting with them.
Then suddenly, she said ‘talk to me in English’. Since I have talked a lot with her and learned most about her daily life, her family and hobby. I have to figure out what to start the conversation.
I think this is the problem with many people. Does conversation require a lot of life experience and knowledge? May not be so!
In my opinion, talking about the recent news in the society or ask about personal life at school, at office, ----- or any thing new, funny thing learned from the books, Internet, ---- would be a good starter.
First of all, whenever she comes to my class, she usually gets online to check her Facebook to find if any of her friends on it. If there is any, she would start chatting with them.
Then suddenly, she said ‘talk to me in English’. Since I have talked a lot with her and learned most about her daily life, her family and hobby. I have to figure out what to start the conversation.
I think this is the problem with many people. Does conversation require a lot of life experience and knowledge? May not be so!
In my opinion, talking about the recent news in the society or ask about personal life at school, at office, ----- or any thing new, funny thing learned from the books, Internet, ---- would be a good starter.
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2012/03/29
on happiness
The other day, when I read an English magazine, I learned from an article which talks about ‘happiness’. When do you feel happiest? Is there any age difference?
It says young people feel happiest when they get excited, yet the older people equal happiness to ‘peace and health’.
I think they got some points in it. Maybe it’s because, to young people, lots of things are new. To older people, they have experienced lots of things already, ups an downs in their lives.
In my opinion, there are surely lots of things involved to make a person happy. Health and peace of mind is the first priority, for without it, nothing can be accomplished.
More than that, work, creativity and hobby, I would say, make me happy. I hope I always have something to do, even volunteering. ‘
It says young people feel happiest when they get excited, yet the older people equal happiness to ‘peace and health’.
I think they got some points in it. Maybe it’s because, to young people, lots of things are new. To older people, they have experienced lots of things already, ups an downs in their lives.
In my opinion, there are surely lots of things involved to make a person happy. Health and peace of mind is the first priority, for without it, nothing can be accomplished.
More than that, work, creativity and hobby, I would say, make me happy. I hope I always have something to do, even volunteering. ‘
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2012/03/13
reading club
Remember years ago, I joined an English reading club at Sudong elementary school before. We used to have a foreign teacher to help us. But our teacher Michael has moved back to his home town, America. Then we faced a decision whether we just closed down or continued it. But if we wanted to continue, who would be the teacher. At least, who could help the class?
After a discussion, I was considered and recommended to be the leader in our English reading club. Originally I kind of refused it because I was not sure if I could do the job well or not. Further more, it might make me very busy. But all the members supported and insisted I take over the job. So I had no choice but accept it.
Years has gone by. It has been two years. I am glad we still survived and keep going on.
But things don’t always go smoothly all the time. Sometimes what happened is very unpredictable.
After a discussion, I was considered and recommended to be the leader in our English reading club. Originally I kind of refused it because I was not sure if I could do the job well or not. Further more, it might make me very busy. But all the members supported and insisted I take over the job. So I had no choice but accept it.
Years has gone by. It has been two years. I am glad we still survived and keep going on.
But things don’t always go smoothly all the time. Sometimes what happened is very unpredictable.
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2011/11/12
change ideas and habits
天下最難的有兩件事：一是把別人口袋裡的錢放到自己的口袋裡。二是把的觀點和想法放到別人腦袋裡！我們缺金錢，實際上缺的是與時俱進的觀念。思維觀念的固執、僵化、墨守成規，是貧窮的根源。
There are two things that are the most difficult. One is put other’s money into our pocket. The other is put idea into other’s brain. We are lack of money. It’s because we lack the updated idea. If we have fixed idea, stubborn, stuck in the rut, all these things will become the source of our poverty, spiritual and physical.
*任何真理是變化的，任何優勢都是暫時的。我們身邊並不缺少財富，而是缺少發現財富的眼光！觀念的改變並未改變事物本身，改變的只是對事物的認識，但觀念可以改變人，人可以改變現實。
*做人重要的是品格、品質、思想觀念。¬孩子貧窮是做父母的錯，他成長的過程裡，父母沒給他正確的價值觀、人生觀。父母的思維方式、教育方法是孩子人生的起跑線！父母有什麼信念，孩子就會有什麼思想觀念。
*父母播下一個行動，孩子收穫一種習慣；父母播下一種習慣，孩子收穫一種性格；父母留下一種性格，孩子收穫一種命運。父母的思想，語言，行動，影響孩子的性格，思維，習慣。
An idea produces an action, an action produces a habit. A habit leads to a character. If you sow a character, you reap a destiny. So watch out! All the parent’s thought, language, action will have a great impact on the children.
*¬性格會影響人生！壞的 習慣不抑制，修正，不良的習慣隨時改變人生走向。人往往難以改變習慣，長期形成的習慣制約、阻礙你自己的發展空間！要不斷的更新自己的觀念，並且拋棄舊觀 念！正確的信念決定思維，超前思維決定心態，良好的心態決定行動。只有改變觀念，敢於和命運抗爭！
Character will influence a person’s life. If a bad habit is not stopped, corrected. The bad habit will change the direction of our lives. People usually find hard to change their habits. Long formed bad habit will stop and hinder our development. We need to change our idea and give up the wrong ideas. Correct idea decides our thought. Correct thought decides our mentality. Good mentality decides our action. Only changing our idea, we dare to fight against our destiny.
There are two things that are the most difficult. One is put other’s money into our pocket. The other is put idea into other’s brain. We are lack of money. It’s because we lack the updated idea. If we have fixed idea, stubborn, stuck in the rut, all these things will become the source of our poverty, spiritual and physical.
*任何真理是變化的，任何優勢都是暫時的。我們身邊並不缺少財富，而是缺少發現財富的眼光！觀念的改變並未改變事物本身，改變的只是對事物的認識，但觀念可以改變人，人可以改變現實。
*做人重要的是品格、品質、思想觀念。¬孩子貧窮是做父母的錯，他成長的過程裡，父母沒給他正確的價值觀、人生觀。父母的思維方式、教育方法是孩子人生的起跑線！父母有什麼信念，孩子就會有什麼思想觀念。
*父母播下一個行動，孩子收穫一種習慣；父母播下一種習慣，孩子收穫一種性格；父母留下一種性格，孩子收穫一種命運。父母的思想，語言，行動，影響孩子的性格，思維，習慣。
An idea produces an action, an action produces a habit. A habit leads to a character. If you sow a character, you reap a destiny. So watch out! All the parent’s thought, language, action will have a great impact on the children.
*¬性格會影響人生！壞的 習慣不抑制，修正，不良的習慣隨時改變人生走向。人往往難以改變習慣，長期形成的習慣制約、阻礙你自己的發展空間！要不斷的更新自己的觀念，並且拋棄舊觀 念！正確的信念決定思維，超前思維決定心態，良好的心態決定行動。只有改變觀念，敢於和命運抗爭！
Character will influence a person’s life. If a bad habit is not stopped, corrected. The bad habit will change the direction of our lives. People usually find hard to change their habits. Long formed bad habit will stop and hinder our development. We need to change our idea and give up the wrong ideas. Correct idea decides our thought. Correct thought decides our mentality. Good mentality decides our action. Only changing our idea, we dare to fight against our destiny.
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2011/11/12
為花開而笑
為花開而笑
為花開而笑為落雨而喜
Smile for blossoming flowers, be happy for the dropping rain.
讓我們的精神更加充裕一些
讓我們的精神更加充裕一些
Let our spirit be nourished more
當今社會機會多發財容易物質豐富花錢方便
當今社會機會多發財容易物質豐富花錢方便
In this modern society, with a lot of opportunities, get rich easier, also easier to spend money for material satisfaction.
這樣一來人們容易產生一種錯覺
這樣一來人們容易產生一種錯覺
By doing so, we get a delusion and a wrong idea.
人們生活除了賺錢就是花錢
Besides making money, life is spending money.
其實在很多時候可以給自己留些時間
其實在很多時候可以給自己留些時間
Actually, we should save more time for ourselves
去閑情逸致地享受人生做一些心理上的體操
To enjoy the mental gymnastics with ease and carefree mood.
讓自己的精神放開放鬆
Let our spirit relax and go free ---------!
讓自己的精神放開放鬆
Let our spirit relax and go free ---------!
人生有限金錢無限
Life is limited, yet money is unlimited.
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2011/06/23
舞者--宋羽亨
At 83, woman is a dancing queen and a role modelDANCE IN THE BLOOD： After realizing that her health was deteriorating,
the former teacher turned her life around and tip-tapped her way to stardom
(By Deborah Kuo )
She tangoed energetically, waltzed gracefully and quickstepped perfectly
with her partner on the dance floor, enjoying herself and entertaining the
audience.
Her fluid movements were constantly dynamic and at times she seemed to be
floating, twirling to quick and complex cadences.
At 83, Sung Yu-heng (宋羽亨) is more than alive and well. She is truly
kicking. With the figure of a teenage girl, she dances like a pro.
The retired Chiayi school teacher began to dance only seven years ago, but
has since wowed audiences all over the country, shattering stereotypes and
traditional beliefs about the kind of life elderly people should lead.
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2011/06/21
Getting What
Getting What You Want in Life
There are lives that have bread in abundance and yet are starved;
with barns and warehouses filled,
with shelves and larders laden they are empty and hungry.
No man need envy them; their feverish,
restless whirl in the dust of publicity is
but the search for a satisfaction never to be found in things.
They are called rich in a world where no others are more truly, pitiably poor;having all, they are yet lacking in all
because they have neglected the things within.
The abundance of bread is the cause of many a man's deeper hunger.
There are lives that have bread in abundance and yet are starved;
with barns and warehouses filled,
with shelves and larders laden they are empty and hungry.
No man need envy them; their feverish,
restless whirl in the dust of publicity is
but the search for a satisfaction never to be found in things.
They are called rich in a world where no others are more truly, pitiably poor;having all, they are yet lacking in all
because they have neglected the things within.
The abundance of bread is the cause of many a man's deeper hunger.
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2011/05/06
幸福絆腳石
要想得到更幸福的生活，就必須搬走一些絆腳石，其中三個就是：
1. 與人攀比。
我們大多數人會拿自己跟任何一個我們覺得更幸福的人比較——一個親戚，一個熟人，或者，通常是
我們根本不怎麼認識的某個人。我曾經遇到過一個年輕人，他給我的印象十分深刻，因為他相當成功
也相當幸福。他談起他對他漂亮的妻子和女兒們的愛，談起他在一個中意的城市作廣播脫口秀節目的
快樂。我記得我曾經認為他就是那種天下少有的事事順心的幸運兒。
然後我們談起網路。他告訴我，他非常慶倖有網路這麼個東西，正是由於網路的存在，他才能夠找尋
更多關於多發性硬化症的資訊，而這可怕的疾病正折磨著他的妻子。想起我曾以為沒有任何不幸的事
情存在於他的生活中，我覺得自己就像個傻子。
2. 完美設想。
幾乎我們所有人都對生活有所設想。當然，問題是，只有極少數人的工作、配偶和孩子會和他之前所
設想過的狀況一模一樣。
以下是我個人的一個例子。我們家族從來沒有人離過婚，我也一直認為一生只能有一次婚姻。所以當
我和妻子結婚五年之後離了婚，當時我們的兒子已經三歲了，我的世界崩潰了。在自己眼裡，我是一
個失敗者。
後來我再婚了，但我告訴妻子弗蘭我無法動搖心中家庭生活失敗的情緒。她問我，現在的家有什麼不
好（這個家包括她與前夫的女兒和我的兒子）。我不得不承認，除了我只有一半時間與兒子相處這一
點做帶來的痛楚（我和前妻共同享有監護權）之外，我們的家庭生活其實是非常幸福的。
"那麼為什麼你不為此而高興呢？"她問。
那正是我打算作的。但首先，我得丟掉"完美"家庭的影子。
"缺瓦"綜合症。
1. 與人攀比。
我們大多數人會拿自己跟任何一個我們覺得更幸福的人比較——一個親戚，一個熟人，或者，通常是
我們根本不怎麼認識的某個人。我曾經遇到過一個年輕人，他給我的印象十分深刻，因為他相當成功
也相當幸福。他談起他對他漂亮的妻子和女兒們的愛，談起他在一個中意的城市作廣播脫口秀節目的
快樂。我記得我曾經認為他就是那種天下少有的事事順心的幸運兒。
然後我們談起網路。他告訴我，他非常慶倖有網路這麼個東西，正是由於網路的存在，他才能夠找尋
更多關於多發性硬化症的資訊，而這可怕的疾病正折磨著他的妻子。想起我曾以為沒有任何不幸的事
情存在於他的生活中，我覺得自己就像個傻子。
2. 完美設想。
幾乎我們所有人都對生活有所設想。當然，問題是，只有極少數人的工作、配偶和孩子會和他之前所
設想過的狀況一模一樣。
以下是我個人的一個例子。我們家族從來沒有人離過婚，我也一直認為一生只能有一次婚姻。所以當
我和妻子結婚五年之後離了婚，當時我們的兒子已經三歲了，我的世界崩潰了。在自己眼裡，我是一
個失敗者。
後來我再婚了，但我告訴妻子弗蘭我無法動搖心中家庭生活失敗的情緒。她問我，現在的家有什麼不
好（這個家包括她與前夫的女兒和我的兒子）。我不得不承認，除了我只有一半時間與兒子相處這一
點做帶來的痛楚（我和前妻共同享有監護權）之外，我們的家庭生活其實是非常幸福的。
"那麼為什麼你不為此而高興呢？"她問。
那正是我打算作的。但首先，我得丟掉"完美"家庭的影子。
"缺瓦"綜合症。
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2011/05/05
幸福真谛
A simple truth about happiness 幸福的简单真谛
After I gave a talk on the subject of happiness, a woman in the audience stood up and said, "I wish my
husband had come." As much as she loved him, she explained, it wasn't easy being married to someone
so unhappy.
This woman enabled me to put into words what I had been searching for _ the 1）altruistic, as well as
the personal, reasons for taking happiness seriously. I told her that each of us owes it to our family and
friends to be as happy as we can be. And if you don't believe me, ask a child what it's like to grow up
with an unhappy parent, or ask parents what pain they suffer if they have an unhappy child.
I was not a particularly happy child, and like most teenagers, I 2）reveled in my 3）angst. One day,
however, it occurred to me that I was taking the easy way out. Anyone could be unhappy; it took no
courage or effort. True achievements lay in struggling to be happy.
The 4）notion that we have to 5）work at happiness comes as news to many people. We assume it's a
feeling that comes as a result of good things that just happen to us, things over which we have little or
no control.
But the opposite is true: happiness is largely under our control. It is a battle to be 6）waged and not a
feeling to be 7）awaited.
To achieve a happier life, it's necessary to overcome some 8）stumbling 9）blocks, three of which
are:10）
After I gave a talk on the subject of happiness, a woman in the audience stood up and said, "I wish my
husband had come." As much as she loved him, she explained, it wasn't easy being married to someone
so unhappy.
This woman enabled me to put into words what I had been searching for _ the 1）altruistic, as well as
the personal, reasons for taking happiness seriously. I told her that each of us owes it to our family and
friends to be as happy as we can be. And if you don't believe me, ask a child what it's like to grow up
with an unhappy parent, or ask parents what pain they suffer if they have an unhappy child.
I was not a particularly happy child, and like most teenagers, I 2）reveled in my 3）angst. One day,
however, it occurred to me that I was taking the easy way out. Anyone could be unhappy; it took no
courage or effort. True achievements lay in struggling to be happy.
The 4）notion that we have to 5）work at happiness comes as news to many people. We assume it's a
feeling that comes as a result of good things that just happen to us, things over which we have little or
no control.
But the opposite is true: happiness is largely under our control. It is a battle to be 6）waged and not a
feeling to be 7）awaited.
To achieve a happier life, it's necessary to overcome some 8）stumbling 9）blocks, three of which
are:10）
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2011/04/28
half-full or hall empty
Do you see the glass as half-full rather than hall empty? The two different answers to the question represent two different attitudes towards life -- optimistic attitude and pessimistic attitude.Optimism always leads to happiness, health and success while pessimism, by contrast, results in hopelessness, sickness and failure. That's because optimists and pessimists deal with the same challenges and disappointments in very different ways. When things go wong the pessimist tends to blame himsell, while the optimist looks for loop holes. The optimist feels in control of his oval life. If things are going badly, he acts quickly, looking for solutions, forming a new plan of action, and seeking for advice. On the contrary(大家在表达相反的观点是可以多多使用哦), the pessimist yields to the arrangement of fate and moves slowly. He doesn't seek advice, since he assumes nothing can be done.
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2011/04/26
永生之感
On the Feeling of Immortality in youthNo young man believes he shall ever die. It was a saying of my brother’s, and a fine one. There is a feeling of Eternity in youth, which makes us amend for everything. To be young is to be as one of the Immortal Gods. One half of time indeed is flown-the other half remains in store for us with all its countless treasures; for there is no line drawn, and we see no limit to our hopes and wishes. We make the coming age our own -- The vast, the unbounded prospect lies before us
Death. old age. are words without a meaning. that pass by us like the idea air which we regard not. Others may have undergone, or may still be liable to them-we "bear a charmed life”, which laughs to scorn all such sickly fancies. As in setting out on delightful journey, we strain our eager gaze forward- Bidding the lovely scenes at distance hail!-and see no end to the landscape, new objects presenting themselves as we advance; so, in the commencement of life, we set no bounds to our inclinations. nor to the unrestricted opportunities of gratifying them. we have as yet found no obstacle, no disposition to flag; and it seems that we can go on so forever. We look round in a new world, full of life, and motion, and ceaseless progress; and feel in ourselves all the vigor and spirit to keep pace with it, and do not foresee from any present symptoms how we shall be left behind in the natural course of things, decline into old age, and drop into the grave. It is the simplicity, and as it were abstractedness of our feelings in youth, that (so to speak) identifies us with nature, and (our experience being slight and our passions strong) deludes us into a belief of being immortal like it. Our short-lives connection with existence we fondly flatter ourselves, is an indissoluble and lasting union-a honeymoon that knows neither coldness, jar, nor separation. As infants smile and sleep, we are rocked in the cradle of our wayward fancies, and lulled into security by the roar of the universe around us. we quaff the cup of life with eager haste without draining it, instead of which it only overflows the more objects press around us, filling the mind with their magnitude and with the strong of desires that wait upon them, so that we have no room for the thoughts of death.
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2011/04/23
the Themes of Our Times
Peace and Development:Peace and development are the themes of the times.
People across the world should join hands in advancing the lofty cause of peace and development of mankind.
A peaceful environment is indispensable for national,
regional and even global development.
Without peace or political stability there would be no economic progress to speak of.
This has been fully proved by both the past and the present.
In today’s world, the international situation is, on the whole, moving towards relaxation.
However, conflicts and even local wars triggered by various factors have kept cropping up,
and tension still remains in some areas.
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2011/04/22
deep voice
the deep calm voice
Welcome to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I’m Faith.
How often do we come to a place in life where we feel there is no hope, no purpose for going on, no anything to live for? Some of us come to this place often while others just visit once in a while. But I am sure, most of us have been there one time or another.
During such times, the pain is intense, the fear is beyond comprehension and the confusion is great. What do we do at such times? Where do we go? Who do we ask for help? Where do we turn?
But there is always hope, always help if we can clear our heads, still our minds and listen to the deep calm voice that comes from somewhere deep within us. This voice has always been there and it will continue to be there. All we have to do is listen.
Welcome to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I’m Faith.
How often do we come to a place in life where we feel there is no hope, no purpose for going on, no anything to live for? Some of us come to this place often while others just visit once in a while. But I am sure, most of us have been there one time or another.
During such times, the pain is intense, the fear is beyond comprehension and the confusion is great. What do we do at such times? Where do we go? Who do we ask for help? Where do we turn?
But there is always hope, always help if we can clear our heads, still our minds and listen to the deep calm voice that comes from somewhere deep within us. This voice has always been there and it will continue to be there. All we have to do is listen.
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2011/04/21
lasting relationship
Relationship that Lasts
if somebody tells you, “ i'll love you for ever,” will you believe it?
i don't think there's any reason not to. we are ready to believe such commitment at the moment, whatever change may happen afterwards. as for the belief in an everlasting love, that's another thing.
then you may be asked whether there is such a thing as an everlasting love. i'd answer i believe in it. but an everlasting love is not immutable.
you may unswervingly love or be loved by a person. but love will change its composition with the passage of time. it will not remain the same. in the course of your growth and as a result of your increased experience, love will become something different to you.
if somebody tells you, “ i'll love you for ever,” will you believe it?
i don't think there's any reason not to. we are ready to believe such commitment at the moment, whatever change may happen afterwards. as for the belief in an everlasting love, that's another thing.
then you may be asked whether there is such a thing as an everlasting love. i'd answer i believe in it. but an everlasting love is not immutable.
you may unswervingly love or be loved by a person. but love will change its composition with the passage of time. it will not remain the same. in the course of your growth and as a result of your increased experience, love will become something different to you.
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2011/04/20
Life is short
我认为有些人之所以不去追求他们的梦想是有一个主要的原因：恐惧。惧怕他人的指指点点，惧怕失败，惧怕没有能力完成他们的梦想。我认为第一步人们应该去战胜恐惧。有时我们会失败，有时别人也会觉得你有些疯狂，但只要你坚信你能够成功，那么你最终必将成功。
Life is short. Are you doing what you love? Are you living your passion? Welcome to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I’m Faith.
If not, why? I am guessing most people will answer that question with "I have a mortgage, a spouse and three kids to support.” In the real world people have responsibilities. They have to make sacrifices. You aren't supposed to be happy with your job but you do it because you have to."
With all due respect, they are wrong. You can take care of your responsibilities and be happy with your job. We spend over 1/3 of our day, at least five days a week performing our jobs. This is a lot of time to be wasting on something we don't enjoy, is it not? Why not spend that time doing something you truly are passionate about for 50 hours a week instead of something that lacks meaning?
Life is short. Are you doing what you love? Are you living your passion? Welcome to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I’m Faith.
If not, why? I am guessing most people will answer that question with "I have a mortgage, a spouse and three kids to support.” In the real world people have responsibilities. They have to make sacrifices. You aren't supposed to be happy with your job but you do it because you have to."
With all due respect, they are wrong. You can take care of your responsibilities and be happy with your job. We spend over 1/3 of our day, at least five days a week performing our jobs. This is a lot of time to be wasting on something we don't enjoy, is it not? Why not spend that time doing something you truly are passionate about for 50 hours a week instead of something that lacks meaning?
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2011/04/19
full of shine
May You Always Have Positive Thoughts 愿你的思想永远充满阳光
May You Always Have Positive Thoughts
May every day of your life bring you fresh hopes for tomorrow---because hopes give us all our reason for trying.
May each new day bring a feeling of excitement, joy, and a wonderful sense of expectation. Expect the best, and you'll get it
May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there.
May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been.
May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best.
May You Always Have Positive Thoughts
May every day of your life bring you fresh hopes for tomorrow---because hopes give us all our reason for trying.
May each new day bring a feeling of excitement, joy, and a wonderful sense of expectation. Expect the best, and you'll get it
May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there.
May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been.
May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best.
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2011/04/17
into his hand
"The hand of the Lord hath wrought this." (Job 12:9)
Several years ago there was found in an African mine the most magnificent diamond in the world's history. It was presented to the King of England to blaze in his crown of state. The King sent it to Amsterdam to be cut. It was put into the hands of an expert lapidary. And what do you suppose he did with it?
He took the gem of priceless value, and cut a notch in it. Then he struck it a hard blow with his instrument, and lo! the superb jewel lay in his hand cleft in twain. What recklessness I what wastefulness! what criminal carelessness!
Not so. For days and weeks that blow had been studied and planned. Drawings and models had been made of the gem. Its quality, its defects, its lines of cleavage had all been studied with minutest care. The man to whom it was committed was one of the most skillful lapidaries in the world.
Several years ago there was found in an African mine the most magnificent diamond in the world's history. It was presented to the King of England to blaze in his crown of state. The King sent it to Amsterdam to be cut. It was put into the hands of an expert lapidary. And what do you suppose he did with it?
He took the gem of priceless value, and cut a notch in it. Then he struck it a hard blow with his instrument, and lo! the superb jewel lay in his hand cleft in twain. What recklessness I what wastefulness! what criminal carelessness!
Not so. For days and weeks that blow had been studied and planned. Drawings and models had been made of the gem. Its quality, its defects, its lines of cleavage had all been studied with minutest care. The man to whom it was committed was one of the most skillful lapidaries in the world.
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2011/04/16
往事如烟
往事如烟(Past Such as Smoke)
do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? everyone does this at some point. however, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.
the successful person takes this approach: learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. the strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. you create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.if you insist on dwelling in the past, i suggest that you focus on your past successes. visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem. what you think about is what you become. therefore, when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create future successes.when you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and remind yourself: "there is nothing i can do now which will change what happened. i learned a valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time." regardless of what you have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.
do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? everyone does this at some point. however, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.
the successful person takes this approach: learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. the strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. you create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.if you insist on dwelling in the past, i suggest that you focus on your past successes. visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem. what you think about is what you become. therefore, when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create future successes.when you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and remind yourself: "there is nothing i can do now which will change what happened. i learned a valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time." regardless of what you have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.
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2011/04/15
學會認輸
TO Win At Marriage, Learn to lose 贏得美滿婚姻,要學會認輸1. To excel in the art of domestic argument, one must master the art of losing.
想要在家庭爭執中得滿分，首先要掌握認輸的藝術．
2. For in the love configuration, losing gives a gift that always returns.
在愛情的天地里，認輸實際上永遠是一份有回報的禮物．
3. The issues that people argue over most in marriage,such as how to spend money,often aren't the real ones.The key issue is:who is going to be in control? When I was younger,my need to control arose out of fear,a lack of trust,insecurity.The day I finally realized I didn't need to control my wife.That,indeed,I ought not control her,that I couldn't control her,and that if I tried to,I would destroy our marriage.
人們在婚姻中爭吵的那些事情，諸如怎樣花錢之類，往往並不是爭執的真正所在．爭執的關鍵是來控制．當我年青的時候，我想去控制是因為出於恐懼，是缺乏信任和安全感．當我終於認識到我不必控制我的妻子的時候，我們的婚姻才算真正開始．確實，我不應該控制我的妻子，我也不能去控制她，如果我要這樣去做，我就會毀壞我們的婚姻．
4. Giving up control is often confused with weakness. But the winner in a domestic argument is never really the winner. When you win a battle and your partner submits,you have,paradoxically,lost.
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2011/04/14
和平進步
Peace and Development: the Themes of Our TimesPeace and development are the themes of the times.
People across the world should join hands in advancing the lofty cause of peace and
development of mankind.
A peaceful environment is indispensable for national, regional and even global development.
Without peace or political stability there would be no economic progress to speak of.
This has been fully proved by both the past and the present.
In today’s world, the international situation is, on the whole, moving towards relaxation.
However, conflicts and even local wars triggered by various factors have kept cropping up,
and tension still remains in some areas. All this has impeded the economic development of the countries and regions concerned,
and has also adversely affected the world economy.
All responsible statesmen and governments must abide by the purposes of the UN Charter
and the universally acknowledged norms governing international relations,
and work for a universal, lasting and comprehensive peace.
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2011/04/13
美丽是你
You’re a Beautiful Person美丽是你美丽：一个真实的自己， 有欢乐，有痛苦，有欢笑也有哭泣。真实的美丽在关爱他人、热爱生活中得到绽放。这种美，并不是外在的，也不是精神上的，而是我们真实自我的全部。就是现在，我要告诉你：美丽是你！
Welcome to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I’m Faith.
I wish that I could tell every person that I meet that he or she is a beautiful person--and have them believe it. I wish I could look them in the eyes and tell them of their beauty and have them accept the words for what they truly are--the truth, plain and simple.
You and I both know that most people will deny their beauty, expressing what they feel is modesty or humility. It's easier for us to be told that we're talented or intelligent--our own beauty is something that we don't want to face.
You could help me to convince people of their innate beauty. You could agree with me in an effort to reinforce the message. You could give a few specifics to illustrate just what we're talking about when we say the person is beautiful. You could reassure the person that I'm not saying it to flatter or to try to win the person over or get something out of the person, but just trying to express in words the beauty I see when I look into that person's eyes and see the human being there, the person who gets happy and hurt and who laughs and who cries.
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2011/04/12
真实的渴望
Your Quiet HungerThere lies in the heart of every man and woman a quiet hunger：a longing for an earth shaking significance. It can be heard in the quiet, most unedited times like when our head hits the pillow at night. As the pressures of the day fade away the voice catches our attention: “I was meant for more than this, there has got to be something more.”
在我们每个人心中都深藏着一份无声而真实的渴望：一种创造辉煌人生的渴望。这种渴望有时会在不经意的安静时刻，比如当我们在夜晚将头靠落有枕头上时听到。当一天的压力逐渐退去，有种声音会震撼我们的灵魂：“生活不仅仅是这样，我的人生可以更灿烂。”
Many people have learned to accept a life of quiet resignation, committed to maintaining the status-quo. But still, in the times we least expect it, we hear that distant call again: a call for meaning, purpose, passion, significance. It continues to haunt us, to stalk us, and as we try to silence it with reason and maturity we find that indeed, it is a fire within our bones and it will not yield.
很多人已经接受了一种放弃追求梦想的生活，只安于现状。但是有时候就在我们最不经意的一霎那，我们会再次听到那遥远的呼唤：呼唤着一种充实，有内涵，富有激情和意义的生活。这种呼唤会一直回荡在我们耳边，缠绕着我们，即使我们试图用理智和成熟去沉默它，我们却发现实事上它是我们内心骨子里的一团火焰，永远不会熄灭。
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2011/04/10
今天我选择
今天我选择 Today, I Choose...It's quiet. It's early.
The sky is still black. The world is still asleep.
In a few moments the day will arrive. It will roar down the track with the rising of the sun. The stillness of the dawn will be exchanged for the noise of the day. The calm of solitude will be replaced by the pounding pace of the human race.
The refuge of the early morning will be invaded by decisions to be made and deadlines to be met.
For the next twelve hours I will be exposed to the day's demands. It is now that I must make a choice. I'm free to choose, and so I choose...
I choose love ..
No occasion justifies hatred;
No injustice warrants bitterness.
I choose joy ...
I will refuse the temptation to be cynical... the tool of the lazy thinker.
I choose peace ...
I will live forgiven.
I will forgive so that I may live.
I choose patience ...
I will overlook the inconveniences of the world.
Instead of clenching my fist at new assignments, I will face them with joy and courage.
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2011/04/10
种植幸福
How to Grow Happiness 种植幸福
Someone says that Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, and to be needed. I have no objection to that, only wondering how to grow happiness.
Welcome to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I'm Faith. Fortunately, I came across the answer somewhere, and I feel like sharing it with you.
Step one:
Plant yourself deep in a bed of faith, and pack it down solid and tight. Drench daily with positive thinking, and keep saturated just right. Mulch often with forgiveness, for this will help you grow. Quickly remove any seeds of worry, for
they will soon germinate, and keep out the weeds of despair. Nourish disappointments with hope whenever it is needed, and always stay cool and
shaded when you feel irritated or heated. Trim away guilt or depression, for they create decay, and cultivate with happy memories as often as every day.
Step two:
Harvest the lessons of the past; just dig, pick, and hoe. And nurture the roots of the present, for now is when you flourish and grow. Start planting for the future; set your goals in a row. Spade the bed well for all your dreams to grow.
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2011/04/08
The Joy of Living
The Joy of LivingJoy in living comes from having fine emotions, trusting them, giving them the freedom of a bird in the open. Joy in living can never be assumed as a pose, or put on from the outside as a mask. People who have this joy don not need to talk about it; they radiate it. They just live out their joy and let it splash its sunlight and glow into other lives as naturally as bird sings.
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2011/04/07
Faces of Love
The Many Faces of LoveLove.. what is love? A lot of people shared their views to what Love really is, or at least what Love is in their eyes. Perhaps love is just an illusion. A strong illusion, especially for those who are searching for a purpose of life. Is love an answer? Love can be wonderful, special, complicated, a distress, a gift, a curse, a tragedy, and most of all, an experience.
Love is a mysterious and a complicated force. What do a person mean when they say they love someone? Love is many different things. Each of us have our own understanding of Love is, and most of the time we base our definitions from feelings and experiences. The book defines love in many ways. "It is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties." It can be an affection and tenderness felt by lovers. Love is the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration.
Just when we thought we finally grasp what love is, somebody asks:
"Does anyone really know what 'LOVE' mean? I believe I have a true love, but 'True love' is always hurt, isn't it?"
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2011/04/06
何为重要？
What will matter?Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no days, no hours or minutes. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten,will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.
So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will all expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Your gender, skin color, ethnicity will be irrelevant.
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